Mother’s Day Reflections
Photo by Ron Lach
Becoming a Mom changes us in ways we never imagined. Through life, we’re always growing and evolving—but nothing compares to the transformation that comes with motherhood. It’s not just a shift in routine or identity—it’s a full becoming. We become someone new.
If you’re a Mom, you know exactly what I mean.
Cherished moments with my Mom, my sister, and I
Your heart expands, your priorities shift, and your body becomes a vessel for love and nourishment. And while that change is beautiful, it’s also incredibly demanding. It can leave you feeling like you’ve lost touch with the woman you once were.
In my work as a personal stylist, I’ve had the honor of meeting many incredible moms. And I hear the same thing over and over again:
“I used to know what my style was… but now I feel lost.”
This feeling is so common—and it’s no wonder.
Motherhood brings a level of novelty that’s hard to describe. You didn’t just welcome a new person—you made one. Let that sink in. You created life. How could you possibly be the same?
Photo by Kristina Paukshtite
Your body has changed. Your hormones are different. The rhythm of your days, thoughts, and even your sense of self are all being rewritten. And at the center of this transformation, there’s a tiny human who means the world to you. A love so deep, it catches you off guard.
So if you’re feeling disconnected from your style, please be gentle with yourself. This isn’t about “losing yourself” but discovering who you’re becoming.
One day, I was opening my heart to my dear friend Silvia Sigliano. I told her how scary the idea of having another baby felt to me. Part of that fear comes from something I carry every day: the trauma of losing my first daughter, Julia, who passed away at just three days old, seven years ago.
The other part is the pace and pressure of my life now. I work over 70 hours a week and live far from family. And the thought of slowing down, of making space for a new baby in the middle of all this… it feels almost impossible.
What Silvia told me that day brought me so much comfort. Her words stayed with me, and I carry them in my heart to this day.
She said: “You’re already a mom. You’ve already become. Motherhood is part of who you are, no matter your future or how many children you have. You don’t have to do it again to prove anything. You don’t owe motherhood to anyone—not even to yourself.”
And then she added: “Ana, your baby will be a baby for only 10 months. You’ll get about a dozen summers with them and... boom, they’re grown. Work will be there. Life will be there.”
Her words reminded me how precious time is in those early years. Whether you choose to pursue your career or pause to be fully present, both are valid decisions. It’s about what feels right for you and your family. There’s no right or wrong—only what works best for you.
Wishing you all a very, very Happy Mother’s Day!
You deserve to be celebrated today and every day.
And stay tuned: next week I’ll share some style tips for new Moms.
With all my love,
Ana
P.S. If you’re trying to become a mom—or if talking about motherhood hurts you, please forgive me. My goal is always to help, never to cause pain. My heart is with you. 💛
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